Christina M. Schultz, MA
Resident in Counseling
Supervised by Thomas F. Lamp, LPC
New Directions Counseling Group, LLC

Partners of Sex Addicts & Infidelity Recovery

Do you suspect or have you recently learned that your partner or spouse is cheating on you?  Do you suspect chronic porn is ruining your relationship?  If you have recently learned that your partner is a sex addict or suspect that he/she is, you are likely experiencing trauma and grief reactions.  What you need is immediate support as a partner who has learned of your spouse's addiction and/or one-time affair.  

As a counselor who is supervised by a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), Thomas Lamp, LPC, and Grief Specialist, I have developing experience to support partners of sex addicts and infidelity normalize the grief and trauma you experience as the spouse or partner of a sex addict. I will support you to manage the crisis, process your grief and trauma, create boundaries, communicate your feelings, consider empowered choices, reclaim your sexuality, and decide your future. 

For clients who are coping with their own sexual and intimacy anorexia issues, I will support you to confront issues that may have impacted your developing sexuality and intimacy.  

My overall mission as your grief counselor is to serve as your companion and to depathologize and normalize your own grief and trauma experiences, to help stabilize you, and support you in developing your self-care plan and physical and emotional boundaries. 

I approach betrayal recovery counseling from a client-centered, grief counseling, and a Dr. Stephanie Carnes Partners of Sex Addiction Recovery Model.  I employ in-session and in-between session exercises to support you in your grief processing and betrayal recovery.


Grief is like the ocean;
it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm,
and sometimes it is overwhelming.
All we can do is learn to swim.

- Vicki Harrison

Crisis Management Guidlines Upon Discovery of Betrayal and/or Marriage to Sex Addict

  1. Get tested for STDs.
  2. Use protection or abstain from sex with the addict.
  3. Find a Therapist specializing in Partners of Sex Addicts and Grief and/or Trauma.
  4. Find a Therapist specializing in Sex Addiction and Trauma for your spouse/partner, if he/she does not already have such therapist.
  5. Establish initial physical and emotional boundaries for self-protection (e.g. Therapeutic Separation if your spouse remains in contact with his/her paramour and continues his/her addiction behaviors).
  6.  Be mindful of who you confide in as you are uncertain of your definite relationship choices at this time.  Consider confiding in a select few trusted individuals who can support you.
  7. ​Find a Partners of Sex Addiction Support Group.
      
The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I encourage you to call me or e-mail me today to take that
leap into action and find the support you are looking
for a better tomorrow for yourself!